…..founded by Jessica Lamb, 2012

Our Approach

At Relationship Matters our aim is simple, we want to empower you to create meaningful connections with the people in your life. 

At the core of our approach is the belief that successful relationships are based on mutual trust and respect, curiosity to seek to know and understand each other better and a commitment to working hard to improve.

We apply these principles in our working relationships with clients and professional partners across Singapore and in doing so provide diverse and high quality counselling, mediation, workshops and team building services. 

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Julie Ryan

Julie Ryan has resided and worked in Asia for 25 years and the UK for 2 years. She is a Provisional Member of the Singapore Association of Counsellors and an Associate Member of the Australian Association of Family Therapy (AAFT).

Julie holds a Masters degree in Guidance and Counselling from James Cook University, Singapore. She specializes in Family Systemic Therapy and is currently completing a Masters in Family Systemic Therapy (MFST) and is developing her relationship counselling skills in Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT).

Julie completed an undergraduate Bachelor of Arts degree at the Auckland University (AU), New Zealand and holds Post Graduate Diplomas in both Education (AU) and Business (Edith Cowen University, West Australia. She has worked with children and adolescents for many years in school settings within New Zealand, UK, Indonesia and Singapore.

Julie has two adult children who work and reside in Australia.

She is passionate about helping families uncover the potential in themselves and their relationships and using this awareness to engage, connect and move forward successfully. 

Julie's clinical hours are Saturday 10.00am - 4.00pm, by appointment only


Jean XM Chen

Jean is Director at Relationship Matters and has been a psychotherapist for more than 12 years, working extensively with couples, adults and families with parenting issues. 


Jean XM Chen is a lecturer at a local university who teaches couple therapy to counsellors in a Masters in Counselling programme. She is also a master clinical member with the Singapore Association of Counselling (SAC), recognized clinical supervisor with SAC, certified EFT therapist with the International Centre for Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (ICEEFT) and trained in Gottman Couples therapy. She contributes to many magazines and onlines articles such as TODAY, Her World, Women’s Weekly, Cleo etc on family life and is sometimes known as Mrs Jean Shashi. She also provides training to other professionals in the field such as private practitioners, social workers and counsellors in couple therapy.

Other than her Masters in Counselling, she has also been trained in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Solution Focused Brief Therapy, Systemic Therapy, Satir, Expressive Arts Therapy, Bowen Family Systems Theory, Prepare Enrich premarital counselling, Play Therapy, Crisis Intervention and Clinical Supervision. 

She is happily married with three children.

Jean's clinical hours are Monday to Fridays 8.00am-1pm and Saturdays 8am - 5pm, by appointment only


Swanie Khoo

Swanie Khoo is a qualified Marriage and Family Counsellor and Psychotherapist. She has journeyed with many whose lives are broken by tragedy and trauma; worked with couples and individuals to rebuild their relationships and lives.


Swanie Khoo is a qualified Marriage and Family Counsellor and Psychotherapist. She has journeyed with many whose lives are broken by tragedy and trauma; worked with couples and individuals to rebuild their relationships and lives. Also, an experienced Coach, she has helped individuals grow through transitions and career change; consulted leaders of organizations toward change and greater emotional connection and personal transformation. She believes in harnessing every individual’s potential toward growth, healing, mental wellness and wholeness.

Swanie holds a Masters of Arts (Counseling) and is a Trauma Therapist with the Singapore Trauma Network for Children (KKH). She is also an accredited facilitator for Prepare/Enrich Marriage Program, and accredited trainer/facilitator for Parenting with Confidence workshops. In addition to the professional work, she volunteers with OvertheRainbow.org and Focus on the Family Singapore, as a workshop trainer/facilitator, promoting mental health wellness for youth and family life.

The therapeutic journey with couples and individuals will be based on an integration of scientifically grounded psychodynamic psychotherapy, Gottman Couples’ Therapy and emotion-focused interventions (completed training in  Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy). She has a wide-spectrum of experience working with couples, parents and children, and individuals across a range of mental health, interpersonal and behavioral issues. Her experience is culminated through years of counseling practice – mainly working with couples and individuals. She helps couples work through their conflicts by understanding their negative interaction cycle, and by breaking down their barriers in communication. She helps couples address unmet needs and underlying emotions and to interact in more loving, responsive and more emotionally connected ways which results in a more enduring and secured relationship. Her counseling work also spans from experience of working with residents at the Girls’ Home (Andrew and Grace Home, and St Georges Residency), where she works with adolescents/teenagers, and youths-at-risk, victims of abuse, neglect and abandonment.

Swanie is a Malaysian based in Singapore for more than 19 years. She is happily married to a Singaporean and they have four children. Prior to making a career change to counselling and psychotherapy, she was in human resources management for over 10 years within the banking and public accounting industry. She’s passionate about helping couples and individuals, to bring hope and healing to those who are hurting in their relationships, and empowering them toward a purpose, meaning, and wholeness.

Swanie’s clinical hours are Tuesday 9am - 9.00pm and  Thursday 9am - 9.00pm, by appointment only. 

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Linda Davies

Linda Davies has completed a Masters degree in Counselling at Monash University, Australia. She is trained in Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and the Gottman Method Couples Therapy. She is developing her relationship counselling skills further by studying Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT). She is also a certified fertility coach and has studied Emotion Freedom Technique (EFT).

 After enjoying an extensive and rewarding career in the UK and Singapore as a journalist and then a marketing communications specialist, Linda decided to train as a counsellor in order to help make a positive difference in people’s lives.

 Linda has lived and worked in six countries in four continents. As a former expat child, and now an expat adult, she knows first-hand the challenges, and rewards, of expat life for both adults and children. Linda also has experience of working in a multi-cultural setting.

 Linda is a member of the Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC) and the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).

 Linda speaks French and Spanish and holds a Masters Degree in Spanish and French from Edinburgh University, Scotland.

 Linda is British and has lived in Singapore for 15 years. She is married with two teenage children.

Linda’s clinical hours are Monday 8am-9pm, Wednesday 8am - 9pm, Friday 9am-6pm, by appointment only.


Mok Sin Lai

Mok Sin Lai is a trained psychotherapist who has 6 years of counselling experience working with both couples and individuals and holds a Masters in Counselling. 

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She stayed in the UK for 2 years while doing her degree and understands the elements of life away from home.  She is married with four children and has experienced being both a stay-at-home-mum as well as a working mother. She has extensive knowledge and experience in working with couples who are going through extra-marital issues and communication issues. She has helped many couples rebuild their relationships and identified roadblocks in good communication. She is developing her counselling skills in Gottman Couple Therapy and Emotionally-Focused Couple Therapy.

Prior to her career switch, she worked as a chemical engineer for more than 7 years with a manufacturing company. She changed her career as she is passionate about helping couples build deeper emotional connection and hopes to help individuals who are hurting.

She has 6 years of counselling experience working with both couples and individuals. She is an accredited facilitator for premarital couple courses and personality analysis tools like Taylor-Johnson Temperament Analysis (TJTA) and Prepare Enrich. Sin Lai is also an accredited Home Study Assessor by the Ministry of Social and Family Development (MSF) as part of the adoption process in Singapore.

Sin Lai’s clinical hours are Tuesdays and Thursdays 6.30pm - 9.30pm, Saturdays 9am - 12nn, by appointment only.


Brian Lim

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Brian is a family therapist and counsellor who works with individuals, couples, parents, and families. Family and Systemic Therapy works with the understanding that the context of an individual’s, couple’s, or family’s distress, both past and present, is linked with their personal relationships, especially within their families.  Participating in this therapy we work on repairing relationships and creating a space for intimate personal conversations

Brian is a professional member of the Australian Association of Family Therapy, and a sought after certified parenting educator for toddlers to teenagers in Common Sense Parenting and Triple P.  Brian has a Graduate Certificate in Family and Systemic Therapy, a Graduate Diploma of Social Science (Professional Counselling), and a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and Organizational Communications

Brian has been working with youth, young adults, parents, and families since 1993 in areas of coordinating, training, coaching, and teaching positions with various community organizations both in Singapore and in the United States

As a consultant, Brian works with companies on systemic relationships in organizational leadership and team engagement, and is a certified Engage and Grow facilitator.

Brian's clinical hours are Mondays and Wednesdays 7.30pm - 9.30pm, Saturdays 9am - 12nn by appointment only.


Justin Ng

Justin Ng is a qualified psychotherapist that specializes in interaction patterns between couples and families. He is experienced and equipped with skills in assisting others to tap into their emotions and strengths to build better communication style. 


Justin Ng (RSW) is a registered member of the Singapore Association of Social Workers. He holds a Bachelor of Social Work and has extensive counselling experience with both couples and individuals. He is equipped with certification in Experiential Relationships Counselling, Play of Life - 3d simulation therapy, Reality therapy and practise certificate in Management of Family Violence endorsed by the Ministry of Social and Family Development (MSF). Justin has also furthered his professional training in Emotion-Focused Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. 

Justin is also a National Institute of Education (Singapore) trained art educator and a practicing artist. In the artworks that he does, he believes that the subtle nuances of daily living will sometimes give us cues to deeper meaning in our life. Justin has volunteer experiences with SPCA, Yellow Ribbon and Art galleries.

Justin's clinical hours are Wednesdays 12nn -8.00pm, by appointment only